This criticism illustrates grandly how Jewish leadership works today. First, there are these icky foreign things that infest the Jewish house called gay people. Ewwwwwwwwwww! Since they are icky, they cannot be frum. So, they cannot really be frum and Orthodoxy, which is the perfect word of G-d, could not possibly accommodate such things. Second, any Orthodox Rabbi who disagrees with these undeniable facts must have something wrong with his credentials, or worse, his own Jewish lineage. No true Jew would see these things differently than we do. Third, ignore the problem. Homosexuals are abominable according to Torah and we must pretend that they do not exist. (Actually, male homosexual relations as sodomy are forbidden as foreign religious practice "to'eva", but homosexuality, deriving sexual pleasure from members of the same sex, is not mentioned in the Torah for either sex. Female homosexual interaction is discouraged as ma'aseh emori, but not definitively dealt with in halacha.) When they come to asking how they fulfill their Jewish lives, given the obstacles in Orthodox society, we need to stick our fingers in our ears and sing a niggun. This is not our problem and you are not our problem. (And my 35 year old son who isn't married just hasn't ... uh, uh ... found the right shidduch yet ... that's it ...). Now that the defenses are up and we can deal with this in terms of helping someone else solve their icky issues with our sage advice.
Fourth, invent some solution that seems overly obvious to someone who has never looked the details of the issue. Let's convert gay people to straightness, or let's "cure" their sickness.
Fifth, when reality or (as the evil world secular culture call it G-d forbid) "science" says that this cannot be cured away or converted away by willpower, we need to reject the reality and insist on our obvious solution. Just another case where science and society do not know what they are talking about when the answer is clear.
Sixth, create a couple testimonials to testify to our solution to trot out when the entire world comes to say that we are daffy. (Pray the gay away, people. Yankel did it.)
Seventh, ostracize anyone who tries to come up with a real solution, implying that our solution could have been ineffective or incorrect.
This is the primary Rabbinic solution to everything, from homosexuality, to Internet family safety, to frum child molesters, to evolution and age of the universe, to frum poverty. Ignore, create imaginary science to define the situation, find a couple of crackpots in the science world to certify that your idea is not provably wrong (or failing that, find fundamentalist Christians who are scientists and already doing some the crackpot work, why reinvent the wheel?), create imaginary solution based on imaginary science, tell everyone else that they are not frum enough if they do not accept your conclusions. Question their credentials and lineage.
And I can tell you how this plays out today in the frum world. The gay man denies that he is gay and stays in the closet. (The open gays leave or cloister themselves away from the frum community.) Either he does not marry and lives a life of frustration in this area (problem solved, right? For us Rabbis, anyway) or he marries a straight woman, trying to deny his gayness for awhile, has a few kids, divorces, and then finally comes out, ruining the lives of his wife and children.
How would a rationalist Rabbi assess the effort mentioned above? Here is a thought.
We have these people who are frum or would like to be, but there is an obstacle in their way. Kiruv Rabbis want said people in the fold, practicing Torah and Mitzvos. Creative kiruv Rabbi finds a way to integrate them, without ruining lives or basing their interaction on dishonesty or resentment. Support Rabbi's efforts and congratulate him on a job well done. Encourage gays and lesbians who want to be frum to look into his program to see if it might be right for them. Then pretend that the gays and lesbians are actually real Jewish people and mekarev them without prejudice or reference to their sexuality. Introduce them by their names, instead of as "my new gay friends".
Something about our Jewish leadership is just wrong.